People drop things on the Internet and run all the time. In this edition, comedy writer (and interim Hairpin editor! One of my guy friends was telling me about a girl that he was going to ask out.) Michelle Markowitz tells us more about contemporary dating communications etiquette. He was asking if he should text her to ask when she could talk on the phone, thinking that if the phone call went well, he would ask her out. I know our generation prefers to schedule phone calls, and there’s nothing more jarring than your phone ringing unexpectedly from someone called “Dan, patchy beard, Crown Heights?? But if you’ve been out several times, I personally (and many of my late millennial/Gen Y cohorts) love phone calls as part of early courtship.” but I think it’s better to just text to set up a first date. I think it’s much better to just text asking a girl out right away. It’s like making out in cars or eating a lot of carbs — it’s sweet and brings back memories of something we used to love doing. Almost a hundred percent of advice you give over gchat/text/brunch will never actually be listened to.Plus, the pre-date phone call is tricky because aside from our parents, we are all so out of practice with actually talking on the phone to other human beings, much less trying to impress them with our easy going nature and love of John Candy’s early works (anyone else? Unfortunately, the guys of our generation would rather do anything other than talk on the phone — but still, on the whole, these are amazing times we live in. But we’ll all keep giving it, and trying to figure it all out, cause you know. Guys of New York: You’re killing us with all the tote bags this summer. My friend ended up texting the girl asking when they could talk, and they talked the next day for 20 minutes, and he said it was “just alright, I dunno? I asked if he’s ever had an amazing first phone call with someone he barely knew, and he said he had, but it never resulted in an equally amazing first date. Ultimately no one really knows what they are doing, but we all act as if we do to somehow seem like we have control over something really ephemeral. That said, there is nothing I enjoy more than giving advice and setting people up (which somehow has never resulted in an actual loving human relationship, but has resulted in several tepid dates! What other invaluable dating advice gems have you doled out via text/gchat/etc? Let’s see, if there’s any chance you want to hang out with a person again, you have to text the next morning/early afternoon at the latest.
Other advice: If you actually like a girl, just text her first before you do a ton of tweets the next morning. Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing...Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.