I hear this is a burning question for a lot of people, so I will attempt to provide some detail here with both a Mac and PC perspective. Also, if you're using any non-built-in webcams, this is where they should show up.I'll go over a lot of things, seeing as people seem to want to know all about webcams! I've included a screenshot of Photo Booth, the bundled Mac program which came with your computer (if you have a Mac with a webcam), and a photo of the i Sight camera on a Mac Book.You will need, alas, a webcam if you are to partake in the festivities. If you have a Windows computer, you probably don't have a webcam built-in, and as such will have to buy one. They're sold all over the place, and you get what you pay for.If you have a Mac, you're in luck as long as it's not a Mac mini! To check, click the apple in the top left of your screen. You can pick up a cheap Logitech for 25 dollars, and I wouldn't recommend spending more than 30 dollars until you know you're really a keen webcam person.Look for a high framerate (30 fps or more) and at least a 640x480 resolution.You may also want a built-in microphone, which is a pretty standard feature.(It's hard to find a webcam without a microphone, actually, but if you're buying a really cheap one, do check!) It's worthwhile going to a large computer store (Comp USA, Compusmart, Future Shop, Best Buy, or whatever's large and near you) to have a look, as they tend to have one of each webcam set up and connected to a computer, so you can compare image quality.
I've included a photo of the Creative Web Cam Vista Plus, which is a really cheap, very basic webcam, which is Mac and PC compatible.It's one I'd recommend for people just beginning to mess around with webcams, and you can find it and other Creative webcams for $15-20 USD if you shop around.Now hook it up to your computer with the included instructions (most of them are plug-in-and-use now) and move on to step 2! You will both need a Windows Live account, but it's free, and you can get it at the URL I just gave.Now you've got a webcam, you probably want to talk to some people. Windows Windows Live Messenger is your friend here. If you don't want to have to download things (and frankly, who does? It's an online version of Windows Live Messenger, so you'll still need that Windows Live account (which, by the way, you have if you have a Hotmail account). Chat is one place to look for chat rooms, and is another.
We'll cover a few scenarios here: Mac Let's say you want to talk to your friend, who also has a webcam, on a Mac. Be extra safe online, and never meet up with anyone in real life from any of these video chat places.
There are a few options, the easiest of which to use is probably i Chat, a program which both of you already have. I can't really offer much other advice, except "don't download dubious downloads" and use as much common sense as possible.