Aish.com, the website for the Orthodox outreach organization Aish Ha Torah, has more than just Torah commentaries and explanations of Jewish ritual, it also offers dating advice.A new piece on Aish.com, “5 ways to turn off a guy,” gives women some helpful tips (garnered from three recently married men, who are, by virtue of being married, now experts on male-female interactions everywhere) on how to keep the attention of the men they desire. 1 to turn off a guy, “Debate with him” — because disagreement is like a blast of cold water to a Jewish Lothario’s nethers — to No.5, “Pursue him,” passivity seems to be Aish.com’s prescription for a successful dating life for women. Failing to dress up and get made up for a date; listing too many academic and professional accomplishments on your online dating profile (“I’m looking for a wife, not a business associate,” one of Aish’s male informants explained); and opening up too much about your personal life (especially instances like the time “you and your sister didn’t speak for two years after a man you both liked chose to date her”).If professional and personal topics are taboo, one wonders what’s left for women to converse about on dates: The weather?
Perhaps the site’s moderators “misconstrued” the comments (because “misconstrue” and “disagree” are now apparently synonyms).Anyway, I guess widespread discontent about the post made its point… Have your feelings changed since the last time you went out? ” “I don't know” usually means that you need more time to figure out if this person is for you. It can mean you're not necessarily excited about someone.” Client: “I don't know, I just don't know.” Me: “You don't know what? Although you may be disappointed not to feel excited, sometimes relationships start out plain and simple—just two good people hanging out without much chemistry.